Diary of a Confused Black Woman

A Valuable Lesson

I learned a valuable lesson this weekend... So there's this guy that I like and let's just say there's some distance between us. Long story short we left it as what --- doesn't know won't hurt ---! I like it that way. I feel like you're cringing already but it's cool. This is what I call baby steps. Yes it's not great to start out this way but hell I'm good with it.

But this is where I learned my valuable lesson. I was told that he may be involved with someone else as well. But you know these are the things that women think: We think once a guy is involved with two women at one time then we must be the side chick. We also think that everything is going wrong.

But here is what we don't think: Did he spend time with you outside of the house, was your time ever interrupted by anyone else, do you know other important people in his life? Once you can answer all these questions with a yes then you are not the side chick. If you're not his girlfriend, if you're not exclusive then why are you mad? Why can't he have two chicks at once. You could do the same thing you just choose not to!

Long story short, this is the valuable lesson I learned! You're not #2 and you're not #1. You are a partner in the firm!!!!! The partner can't be up to her best potential if she's worried about what the paralegal and secretary are doing!!! Get over yourself!!!! Cut the selfish shit out!!! I love thinking about it this way!!!! I'm smiling you should too!!!!

posted by cherry's kid @ 6:03 PM